If I could go back and change anything about my life, its definitley how I spent my high school/adolescent years. Those are supposed to be the most fun years of your life and that’s where you learn most of lifes tricks, at precisely those tender years.
In High School I was a very ‘straight’, if you may, individual. While my classmates were partying, enjoying extra curricular activities, socialising etc, I was busy with homework..NOT! On a serious note, my grades were very good, had a very ‘clean’ record when it came to demerits, absenteeism, late coming, etc, nope, not me. Yes, in the end, it worked out well for me as I was almost always in the top 10, got chosen for science expo’s, became a prefect (guardian), some sort of ‘miss-goody-two-shoes’.
The thing is, what really drove me to work hard in those days was the pressure I got at home. My moms older sister expected nothing but the best from me and I think she saw a lot of potential in me and tried her utmost best for me to live her own dream, and I had to live up to those expectations as Im not one to disappoint people, infact I hate it. She practically forced me to study Maths and Science on a higher grade and I just couldnt say no. Mind you, its not because she paid my school fees or anything, I just HAD to deliver…whether I liked it or not. I didn’t like it and couldn’t tell anyone as I was really scared of her…
When I look back now, yes she may have shaped me into a disciplined, hardworking lady and i should be greatful, but everyone deserves a break. Everyone deserves to make his/her own choices in life, positive or not. You may assist someone in choosing subjects, hobbies, educational institutions and basically offer advice but don’t run their life, its not yours to run…really.
In essence, if really I could change it all, I would have participated more in school, be it play more sports (yes I played netball..lol), maybe join the debating team, participate in events and engaged more with my school mates. Would you believe that I had 2-3 friends in High School? All 5 years I spent there, I only made that few friends……to be continued..:)
Hi Zanele
ReplyDeleteI have just finish to read your article. Dear you have absolutly nothing to regreat for missing parties. Perhaps you would not where you are today,have you attended those parties, it was for good course, i have been there and done it, i personally did not benefit instead fail my standard nine those day.hahaha good one.